To the Good Guy
Heal, learn, grow, love.
I'm sorry that my response to your DM's are cold and almost bitchy. I've just been so... jaded.
It's crazy how quick a guy will get out of your DM's once you tell them you're not having sex. I'm serious when I say I no longer have a desire to "Netflix & Chill". I'm at a point in my life where it's just not enough.
I want True Crime and commitment.
And unfortunately for you, the douche bag guys who make unnecessary sexual comments after an hours' worth of conversation, the ones who send unsolicited dick pics, or want to just play in my curls instead of trying to get to know me, have ruined it for you.
Side note - guys - if you send a picture of your penis to a woman, I can assure you she laughed at it and sent it to the group chat with all her friends, so they can enjoy the joke too. It's gross. Don't do it.
Women want flowers on a Tuesday, a date to Chick-fil-A because it's her favorite and thought put into your responses when she's had a bad day. We want date nights without us having to say we want date nights. Genuine effort goes a long way.
I've been single for a while now and it's made me open my eyes to what I deserve. I want the things I mentioned above and then some. The problem is that any good guy that knocks on my door, I automatically assume they're trying to sell me a lemon. I'm hopeful yet still so jaded.
I want to believe that there are guys out there that want me for my knowledge of serial killers rather than what I can do in the bedroom. I want sex to be a bonus to them. I want to believe that there are guys out there that want to help me carry my baggage rather than add more dirty unwanted laundry to it.
I've had offers for dates, but I can only think about what that guy wants at the end of the date that keeps me from saying yes. I blame the guys who only have sex on their mind instead of a future with a good woman.
It's not you, it's me.
To the good guy - I'm sorry. I'm just not ready to open that door. I'm working on me so I can be better for you.